Last Update January 7, 2016
Paris is one of the most beautiful and enchanting cities in the world. For tourists visiting the city it is nothing short of romantic and gastronomical. It´s a travelers delight in every other sense when it comes to the rich history, sights and activities to see and do! Now if you´re like me and have had the great opportunity to be transplanted in this lovely ‘City of Lights’ as an expat the feeling of appreciation for the city never fades, but the feeling of loneliness can increase when it comes to meeting and making French or let’s say Parisian friends.
Not wanting to be stereotypical, but I’ve found – and this was recently echoed to me over coffee with an American friend along the canal St. Martin – it´s kind of hard breaking in with Parisians, forming genuine friendships, especially with the one and only group you already know such as your coworkers. After living here for more than 6 years I have many stories of this ‘alien’ feeling in cheeseland. I´ve made friends from 3 different companies, my son´s playtime at the park, waiting lines at private sales.
Recently I received this comment on the blog from Chritsine :
Hey, love the blog, just discovered it. how about a new section on meeting people in Paris? making friends? I got here last October, with my job, and have not met too many people since. My colleagues are all French and going out with them seems to be off limits for some reason. I’d appreciate some advice on this. thanks!!
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Thanks Christine for asking a question that we can share with other readers who might be experiencing the same frustration here in Paris. I’ve been there!
My first advice is to stop trying to be friends with all your coworkers – it may happen or it never will, unless they want it to. Depending on your office culture, size of the company or the age of your coworkers you’ll be better off trying to get a connection with just one person in the office that perhaps has similar interest like you, or hates the same coworker or boss (as bad as this might sound!). Don’t expect your coworkers to care about how you´re settling into their country and culture, they´re probably way too busy planning the next sortie/gathering with their group of friends they´ve known since childhood or college.
Even non-Parisian French folks will tell you how ´difficult` Parisians can be about forming new friendships. So you see even other French people will feel like outsiders too!
Here are some things to do:
Learn French – people will want to talk to you if they feel comfortable speaking to you in their own language. Look into classes with the Mairie or Alliance Francaise or find a chatting partner on craigslist.
Do the stuff you love – Sign yourself up for a Meet-Up or Facebook group, activities with people with similar passions transcends language and cultural borders. For example Yoga folks love to hang out with other yogis, or if you love reggae find a Paris reggae groups on Facebook and go to a couple events.
Inititate an Event – It can be an afterwork picnic along the Seine in the summer-time or a drink at a bar near the office. Just do it, they may say no, you may only have one person showing up from the office, but it’s a start: Initiative can go a long way.
Many young companies such as start-ups are more dynamic and international minded so they wont think it weird to do somethings Americans and have Karaoke night at Cocorans (my old web company has this and it was a great opportunity for all the international folks to mingle and come together over drinks and music with the french guys).
Find the Expats – If all of this fails, do what most of us expats do. Just hang with a group of other expats! This is a sure way to meet many interesting people not just french and also the French folks you´ll meet here who hang with these people are often more open minded. see meet-up Also there is a strong likelihood that there is some Facebook group of your countrymen like “Americans in Paris”.
Here are some places you’ll be sure to meet more “open” Frenchies and Expats
1. Bar Ourq – There is a Pimms event almost every Saturday in the summer time by Anna and the Pimms Girls. Outside of Bar Ourq is right in front of the canal , the crowd is always equal parts french and foreigners and there is always good music and things to snack on and people are not afraid to talk to each other and mingle inside the bar.
2. Chez Jeanette – More of a hipsters hangout now than before but the good thing about Chez Jeanette is that the waitstaff is friendly and the mix of younger and older Parisian locals and short-term Parisians make for always an interesting mix. Also along Rue Fb St.Denis there are many other places to discover to have a drink and eat like Maui 7, Paris New York burgers, and
3. Open Mic Poetry at Chat Noir – Spoken word Paris is a great place to go and listen to artist read from their ongoing works of fiction or poetry or music performances for free. You can share your work as well. Sign up to perform when you get there and there is a 30 minutes break in between where people mingle upstairs around the bar for a drink or two. Run by David from the bookshop English Shakespeare & Co
4. Yoga in the Marais – Doing yoga here is nice because it’s a small space and the instructor speaks both French and English and afterwards people usually hang around to talk to each other.
5. Fragments, Cafe Lomi or Kooka Boora – on any given day these cafes are cool to grab a great cup of jo and meet interesting people who often break from the work they do around their computers. The list of coffee shops has increased since 2013, new ones are Lockwood, Le Peloton, The Broken Arm, and Loustic… see the rest here.
6. Go for a drink at La Chambre Noir – especially on a tuesday night when my pal Mardi is the chef. You’ll feel right at home in this cosy wine bar.
It can be an overwhelming feeling being in a new city, I’d love to meet you for coffee and share the city with you through my eyes, rant, laugh and share my love of Paris. On weekends I’m most often at one of my fave coffee shops you can email me at [email protected] to meet here!
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